| We've all heard the horror stories associated with | | | | up? Whether they outright refuse to answer, or |
| relationships. Usually, these stories are the | | | | just never fully answer, this is a huge red flag. |
| common issues that touch most, if not all, couples. | | | | · Refusal to Give Contact Information. If |
| A step up that ladder is infidelity - statistics show | | | | you only have their beeper number, that signifies |
| that affairs affect approximately one in every | | | | a problem. Even if you have their work phone |
| three couples. Think about that for a minute. One | | | | number and their cell phone number, but not a |
| out of every THREE. This means, even if you | | | | home phone number - you should be suspicious. |
| haven't personally been cheated on, people in your | | | | Likewise, if you don't know where they live, and |
| life likely have been. | | | | the individual is not forthcoming with this |
| Also, millions of women each year are abused by | | | | information, there's probably a reason why. |
| the men in their life. Many of these women are | | | | · Keeps Friends and Family Hidden. If you |
| ultimately murdered by the hands of their | | | | have no idea who their friends and family are, |
| significant others. And it's not just men that do | | | | have never met them, and don't even know |
| the abusing - women are abusers also. Abuse has | | | | where your partner hangs out with their friends |
| many variations - from the physical to the | | | | and family - be concerned. In healthy relationships, |
| emotional - and the far majority of it happens | | | | it is a normal and expected involvement to meet |
| behind closed doors with someone the victim | | | | each other's friends and family. |
| trusts. | | | | · Deception. If you've caught them in lies, |
| Unfortunately, there are also con artists out there | | | | one after another, even small "white" lies - this is |
| who purposely find emotionally needy targets to | | | | a warning signal you should not ignore. When you |
| steal money from. They use their charisma and | | | | know the facts about an incident and your |
| their lies to become romantically involved with | | | | partner is lying to you, they're trying to keep you |
| their victims, and once the trust is established, | | | | from discovering something. You need to carefully |
| they walk away. Not only leaving a broken heart, | | | | consider what they are hiding and why. |
| but often, an empty bank account. Many times, | | | | · Missing Blocks of Time. Do they run to |
| these victims never come forward because they | | | | the store for "one quick thing," and return three |
| blame themselves. | | | | hours later? Do they suddenly have business |
| Today, it is easier than ever for someone to take | | | | meetings every night that run until late? Are they |
| advantage of you. With the advent of the | | | | often unavailable at unexplainable times? Missing |
| internet, and the fascination with falling in love, | | | | blocks of time often leads to the realization that |
| internet matchmaking companies are big business. | | | | your partner is cheating. |
| And, for the person looking to find someone to | | | | · Complains about Lack of Money. If your |
| victimize, these organizations are a fairly | | | | partner is suddenly complaining about a lack of |
| anonymous way to begin their search. | | | | funds, and if this is a NEW thing, be careful. They |
| There are many reasons why someone may | | | | could be spending their extra money on someone |
| want to investigate their lover or spouse. They | | | | else. |
| could be in a new relationship with someone they | | | | · New Concerns over Appearance. |
| don't know very much about, they could be | | | | Suddenly worried about their physical appearance |
| contemplating marriage and are unsure if their | | | | is a sign of infidelity. Those who have been |
| intended has been honest with them, or they | | | | cheated on always say their first clue was the |
| could be in a long-term relationship or marriage | | | | new clothes in the closet, the excessive shaving, |
| and believe their significant other is cheating on | | | | the using of perfume/aftershave when it wasn't |
| them. Regardless of the reason why, in today's | | | | before, the membership at the gym, etc. |
| world, it makes sense to be sure that your | | | | Basically, any behavior related to appearance the |
| partner is who they say they are. In most | | | | individual didn't have before. |
| circumstances, if your instinct is telling you | | | | The above characteristics do not mean your |
| something is off, it probably is. | | | | partner is lying to you, cheating on you, or is |
| Usually, when people are hiding something, there | | | | someone other than they say. However, they are |
| are clues to this. Knowing what to look for can | | | | suspicious in nature, especially if more than one of |
| help you in making the decision to investigate your | | | | the above pertains to your partner. What do you |
| lover or spouse. Realize, the following tips are | | | | do to confirm or deny your suspicions? There are |
| based on the assumption that a couple is beyond | | | | many possibilities at your disposal if you're ready |
| the "first date" stage. | | | | to investigate your lover or your spouse. |
| · General Evasiveness. Are they vague | | | | Remember, the more information you have, the |
| when you question them about their job? Past | | | | better decisions you can make. |
| relationships? Family? Schooling? Where they grew | | | | |