| I'm including a bit of a conversation in here | | | | be heading with my own Mother. My Mom a bit of |
| because I feel that it's extremely difficult to give | | | | an eccentric person was not one to mess around |
| a person a proper view of what is actually going | | | | lying with and for the first time since I'd been a |
| on without it... | | | | little child I had broken a trust that had been long |
| Daily people lie and think nothing of it convincing | | | | standing. This trust breaking was nothing I took |
| themselves that it is actually better to lie than it is | | | | light hearted even now I regretted telling the fib. I |
| to hurt someone else's feelings. Excuses won't | | | | might not be able to get back the honesty in our |
| work. Honestly hurting someone's feelings, isn't | | | | relationship because of it and was not so sure |
| exactly a cardinal sin and since no one really | | | | that anything was worth destroying that |
| knows for certain how someone is going to react | | | | relationship with my mother. While she had many |
| to a statement until after it's said leads me to | | | | quirks and seemed more than a little weird her |
| believe that the individual lying isn't giving anyone | | | | heart held me and my brothers together through |
| an honest chance. Interesting concept that some | | | | many a tough time. When our alcoholic father left |
| people actually believe " I lie so that I won't hurt | | | | our spirits were crushed, but somehow Mom |
| someone's feelings" What I hear being said is that | | | | managed to keep a twinkle in her eye and a smile |
| " I lie and I blame it on other's because they | | | | in her heart which only served to let us all know |
| might get hurt feelings over something I said". I | | | | that things were still going to be alright. Not once |
| may or may not be quite right in this opinion but | | | | did she complain or seem discontent even though |
| for what it is worth I think it's just plain controlling | | | | it was her lot in life to go through the cold |
| to not open up and be oneself. If a person | | | | Minnesota winters with blue toes, a cold nose and |
| sincerely doesn't wish to hurt anothers feelings | | | | barely enough food on the table to get by. I |
| then just chose to say nothing and that solves | | | | suddenly felt like crying and choked back a sob as |
| the entire "lying" issue. Excuses don't work. | | | | I rounded up the walkway to my best friend |
| Here is a small part of a short story which I think | | | | Jayden's front doorstep. To my surprise, she was |
| helps give young adults the idea of the feelings | | | | already dressed to go and had a flashlight in tow |
| that lying can bring about. Negativity results in | | | | along with a backpack with what looked like a |
| lying for whatever reason and distrust can come | | | | water bottle on the side. I didn't have to say a |
| about for obvious reasons. This story in particular | | | | word and we turned and walked back down the |
| makes the person reading it think about reasons | | | | path I just had walked up. The sun now was |
| to tell the truth and to think twice about the | | | | settling into the earth.....(to be continued)" |
| reasons to avoid lying. | | | | I know someone who used to lie out of fear |
| HONESTY | | | | which stemmed WAY back into thier childhood..as |
| "I approached the driveway slowly thinking the | | | | they grew older and realized that they had |
| entire time that my folks might have worried for | | | | created a habit in which not only caused more |
| no reason had I mentioned I was going to | | | | problems for themselves but others as well a |
| Jayden's house. Instead I had told them I was | | | | change occurred.. But the more they tried to |
| walking the dog over to the park across the road | | | | change, the more FEAR got in the way.. ONE day |
| from Grandma's house. Nervously now I increased | | | | this individual got particularily mad about the whole |
| my pace my heart started to pound with | | | | situation and asked God to help them stop lying |
| exhilaration and a bit of anxiety as I realized we | | | | NO matter what...and the amazing part of this |
| were going to really do it. Jayden and I had made | | | | story is that they still were not able to stop the |
| plans to investigate the supposedly haunted | | | | "little" lies. Then all of a sudden the things that |
| building that loomed ominously at the end of the | | | | were being lied about started to become true...In |
| cul-de-sac. The house had been abandoned for | | | | essence a not so minor miracle happened. |
| years and lately there had been rumours of lights | | | | It happened, and each time it happened this |
| flickering inside the unoccupied home. Whatever | | | | individual thanked God with tears in their |
| the case, Jayden was as determined as I to get | | | | eyes..Then afterwards it became easier and |
| inside somehow and have a look see for | | | | easier to tell the truth. Now, to this day this |
| ourselves. Nothing had excited us more than | | | | person hasn't completely been able to be honest |
| reading Nancy Drew, Trixie Beldon and the Hardy | | | | yet telling three lies in one year is better than |
| Boys. Together we had discussed the events in | | | | telling three lies in one week. It's a considerable |
| those novels and realized that the novels intrigued | | | | improvement and with God's help success is on |
| us beyond just reading them. One day I was | | | | the way. This individual has come a long way in |
| certain we'd open up our very own private | | | | three years after a lifetime of fear based |
| investigation service for the normal and the | | | | dishonesty. |
| paranormal. | | | | While change is inevitable let's attempt to make it |
| For now though it seemed light years away as | | | | a change for the positive! A little faith and desire |
| we were merely 13 years old and five years was | | | | can overcome a lot of life's challenges. Honestly I |
| to long to wait. Tonight we were going to start | | | | think our world will be a better place if we place |
| our very first investigation and I was scared. So | | | | more stock in telling the truth. |
| scared in fact that I was dishonest with where I'd | | | | |