| I'm not sure if you've seen it or not, but chances | | | | But what happens when the team is getting |
| are you heard about it. Oprah had relationship | | | | blown out? The man loses interest in the game |
| expert M. Gary Neuman on her show to discuss | | | | and finds something else to do. This is by no |
| his new book, "The Truth About Cheating", and | | | | means an excuse for a man to cheat, but rather |
| he ruffled a few feathers. | | | | points out that men need love, affection, and |
| I thought it was a great interview, but a lot of | | | | attention from their wives, just as their wives |
| people, women in particular, were upset. See, | | | | need from them. |
| Neuman's book is about why men stray and what | | | | Affairs are a strain on any relationship, and it's |
| you can do to prevent it. | | | | important to understand that if an affair is |
| After the show, a lot of women felt like Neuman | | | | happening or if you think it is happening, the truth |
| was blaming them for their spouse having an | | | | is there is something wrong in your relationship. |
| affair. In his research, which included over 25,000 | | | | The long and short of this is that both parties in |
| interviews, Neuman's data revealed that the main | | | | any relationship really need to indentify what each |
| reason men cheat is because of lack of attention | | | | other wants and needs. Only then can you grow |
| at home. | | | | your relationship into the one you always |
| Contrary to popular belief, men, like women, have | | | | dreamed of. |
| a need to feel important and valued in a | | | | There is no sense in holding back your feelings. |
| relationship. The need a feeling of self-worth, and | | | | Your partner or spouse won't be able to address |
| want their wives to be happy and proud of them. | | | | your needs until they are clearly defined. |
| What women took from this was that he was | | | | If you get to this point, and I hope you don't, you |
| giving men an excuse to cheat and then pass the | | | | need to indentify the problems in your relationship |
| blame on to their wives. I disagree. | | | | and develop solutions for those problems. If you |
| He was trying to emphasize why men would | | | | want to catch your spouse cheating, I suggest |
| consider stepping outside of the relatiosnhip. He | | | | the book by Neuman or the book "Cheating |
| used sports as an anology of how men have to | | | | Spouses Revealed". |
| feel a sense of winning. When a man's team is | | | | Both are fantastic for helping you identify reasons |
| playing, you often notice a sense of ownership on | | | | people cheat, how to catch them, and how to |
| the man's part, as if he has a stake in the team's | | | | recover. |
| perfomance. | | | | |