| Something is going on with your significant other. | | | | what your spouse is saying and compare it with |
| And it ain't good. There is no doubt in your mind | | | | some of their previous statements. To do this |
| that they are fooling around but it appears like | | | | may require you to invest money in your own |
| they know that you know. So the obvious | | | | private journal. Nothing fancy just a notebook or |
| cheating spouse signs that you read about are | | | | something similar where you can start accurately |
| not there. Or at least not anything that you can | | | | detailing what is going on. |
| definitely point out. | | | | Some of the inconsistencies may just come out |
| The smell of some different fragrance? Nope. | | | | naturally during the course of having a regular |
| Working longer hours? Not. Changing their | | | | conversation with your spouse. But understand |
| appearance for the other person? As far as you | | | | there are going to be sticking points and the only |
| can tell your spouse looks the same. | | | | way to get to the root of them is to ask |
| But you cannot shake your suspicions or the | | | | questions. |
| certainty that all is not well. For a brief moment | | | | This is where you are going to have to practice a |
| you tell yourself that this is nothing more than | | | | little slickness of your own. Your questions need |
| your imagination running amuck. That is until your | | | | to come off as just part of the conversation. If it |
| intuition makes its voice heard loud and clear. You | | | | becomes obvious to your significant other that |
| are not being paranoid something really is going on. | | | | the only reason you are asking these questions is |
| You think about hiring a private detective but the | | | | you are trying to catch them in something then |
| thought of doing that bothers you something | | | | they may turn the tables and give you a double |
| awful. And not just that you would be employing | | | | dose of lying that you cannot make heads or tails |
| a third party to spy on your spouse but also you | | | | out of. You have to be a little clever to carry on |
| would have to pay for it. Investigators especially | | | | an extramarital affair so do not underestimate |
| the ones that are experienced and come highly | | | | them. |
| recommended do not come cheap. So if you hire | | | | Be careful with your journal. Make sure you store |
| one and they find nothing then not only will you | | | | it in a place safe from searching eyes. Also be |
| be embarrassed but you will also be out a | | | | careful of sharing it or your suspicions with |
| considerable amount of cash. | | | | anyone including your best friend that you may |
| You could always check out the financial | | | | have known and trusted since grade school. This |
| statements from your credit cards and see if | | | | is an undertaking which you should go about alone. |
| there is anything that looks out of place. Of | | | | Understand that recording all of the lies is not the |
| course if your spouse has their own separate | | | | end of the process. It's a means to the next step |
| accounts that may not be possible. Even if the | | | | which is to gather more concrete evidence on |
| two of you share the same account an odd | | | | your spouse's infidelity. |
| charge here or there can easily be explained | | | | You don't like how you feel and would love to be |
| (indeed quite a number of philandering spouses | | | | mistaken. But you know you are not. This is going |
| have gotten good at doing just that). | | | | to be a painful job and unfortunately a necessary |
| One solution is to start paying close attention to | | | | one. |